Is your glass half full or half empty?
Have you ever given much consideration to the saying ‘your glass is half full or half empty’! Or as Shakespeare once said “there is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so”. So what do these expressions mean?
The language that we use on a daily basis shape our inner beliefs, which then go on to influence our behaviour and can in time impact on our health. For instance if you often use negative language, it will in time make you feel dispirited and pessimistic, which then impacts on the choices you make in life.
Do you often relate to these phrases?
1. If only ……………
2. I can’t ………….
3. I should have ………….
4. I wish I would have ………….
5. I’m hopeless ………….
6. It’s not my fault …………..
7. I ought to……………
If you find yourself saying these phrases on a regular basis you are voicing that you have a lack of control over your life. Phrases like ‘I wish’ or ‘if only’ you are implying that you have regrets and ‘I should’ or ‘I ought to’ imply you have taken the wrong course of action. It is by repeating certain phrases we are not allowing ourselves to break free from negative thought patterns and behaviours.
With this in mind have a go at replacing negative phrases for positive ones
Negative phrase v positive phrase
1. It’s just not fair That’s life
2. I’m hopeless I will succeed
3. I can’t I can
4. It’s not my fault I will take responsibility
5. If only Next time I will
6. I’m no good at I’ll learn from my mistakes
7. I’m just not lucky I make my own luck
8. I’ll never be able to learn this I can learn anything I set my mind to
9. I’ve made the wrong choices in life I have learnt great life experiences
So what are you, full or half empty? Start to make changes to those negative phrases and you will see how your emotional well-being and outlook will follow suit.